It’s fascinating to me how easy it is to guess the kind of work someone is involved in by the way they approach problems in their lives. Our work has a way of shaping us. I’m in the middle of navigating some transitions. As a result, I find myself looking back at the different ways God has worked in my life to shape me. Some of this He has done through the jobs I’ve held.
When I was in the corporate world, I learned to argue, persuade and guide. My job trained me to think strategically. It forced me to lead with confidence and trust my reasoning. And while those skills certainly served me well, I look back at the strategic planner who left that job to serve in ministry and rejoice that God taught me how to trust Him more than myself.
When I became a pastor, the formation process wasn’t complete. I learned from the pastorate that patience matters more than persuasion. God taught me to value empathy, slowing down to listen, and sacrificial love above the efficiency of systems. Pastoral ministry has taught me to love people and be willing to lay down my comfort for the sake of others.
Now, as I prepare to step into a new season as a church planter, I know that God is continuing to shape me. There is a lesson that those who seek greener pastures should take to heart — we are formed by what we give ourselves to.
The Renewal of Our Minds
I’ve found this theme in my personal Bible studies repeatedly lately. The way we think shapes the way we live. To the church in Rome, Paul wrote, “Those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace” (Rom. 8:5-6 ESV).
Contrary to common belief, what we think about is not harmless. Our thoughts become seeds that grow into habits, choices and traits that define our character. Naturally, Paul urges his readers: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Rom. 12:2). True transformation begins when we fix our thoughts on Christ, aligning our view of the world with His truth.
We reflect what we revere. We become what we behold.
Formation Through Devotion
At the risk of coming across like a self-help author, I have some observations about people. People who are concerned with their careers only see productivity. They become hindrances to the people of God, whose faithfulness doesn’t always produce measurable results. People who are given over to fear have dreams that shrink to the size of their worries. Our fickle human nature allows our hearts’ desires to scatter like leaves in the autumn breeze.
But that isn’t the way it has to be. When we give ourselves wholly to God, He molds us into something holy. In other words, when we devote ourselves to beholding God’s majesty, beauty and truth while serving His people and His purposes, our priorities get lined out, our desires get cleaned up, and our character takes shape before Him.
Our devotion is an investment that produces dividends. That can be good or bad. If we give ourselves to control, we’ll receive anxiety. If we give ourselves to cynicism, we’ll receive bitterness. If we give ourselves to ambition, we’ll find ourselves exhausted. But God’s Word promises that if we give ourselves to Christ, we’ll receive His peace.
When Jesus said, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also,” the treasure He spoke of included the things we pour our energy and affection into. Whatever we treasure shapes our hearts (Matt. 6:21).
The corporate world shaped me through skills. The pastorate shaped me through sacrifice. In this new season, I see myself being formed to be dependent.
Learning to Be Shaped
We need to learn to be shaped by what God is doing in our lives. Our human tendency is to control our growth. But since growth comes through surrender, it’s often in the seasons when we are uncomfortable that we grow the most.
I want to pray with Isaiah, “O Lord, you are our Father; we are the clay, and you are the potter; we are the work of your hand” (Isaiah 64:8). I want to be shaped into the image of Christ for God’s glory. The clay does not direct the potter’s hands. I need to remember that.
When we give ourselves to God’s purposes, He will stretch us. His glory humbles us. His people challenge us. In the crucible of just sitting amazed at God, the Lord’s wonder ignites joy inside us.
The more we yield to God, the more we are shaped by Him. The more we behold Him, the more we reflect Him.
A Question for the reader
So, what have you been giving yourself to lately? Have your habits formed you into someone anxious or peaceful? Are your thoughts more directed toward what is temporary or what is eternal? What has shaped you more, the world or the Word?
Give yourself to God’s purposes. He is still writing His story through His people. Give yourself to His majesty. He alone deserves your awe. Give yourself to His beauty. He will fill your heart with wonder. Give yourself to His glory. He will remind you who you were made to be. Give yourself to His people. He will teach you to love as Jesus did. Everything in our world will fade. But the person who gives themselves wholly to God will reflect His grace. We are always being formed by something. Let us be a people who give ourselves to God without reservation.